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不要把自己关在城堡里

January 10, 2006 on 5:01 pm | 随意帖 |

去年年初由于某种机缘我去见了一个中国过来的访问团，跟那些人一起吃了顿饭。席间一个妈妈问了我的一些情况和联系方式，因为她的女儿可能会来英国读书。

过了一段时间我在网上碰到了她几次，不过是跟她谈了一些学习方法和一些鼓励的话。

真是一个可爱的高中女孩，这次耶诞（顺便说一下，我不喜欢“圣诞”，耶稣对于我，对于中国人来说并不是“圣”！）竟然给我写了一封英文信。第一是祝贺节日快乐，第二是介绍了一下她现在的学习情况。另外一半的篇幅这个善良的女孩说了一些非常有趣（或是让我很担忧）的东西。由于内容并不涉及隐私，我想她不会介意我放在这里。

下面是原文（尽管不是很通顺，但她在进步）：

 By the way I want to remind you an important point. Do you remember the first time I talk to you on MSN? You told me’YOU MUST WORK HARD’.But at that moment you don’t even sure who I am!!!I just said my parents meet you in Feb and you talk to me so freely.This is very very unwise.You must be aware of strangers like me.I didn’t konw about this before.When I got to konw it, I feel it is too stupid so I told it to my parents as a joke,but they didn’t laugh.On the contray,they warned me seriously.I  e-mail you at once.

我的回复如下：

Dear ***:

I am glad that you are finding a new way to live and you are progressing with your studies.

Don’t worry, I have been away from home for many years, I know how to protect myself. Did I provide you with anything that may be used by you to harm me? I think not. But should we be too careful with our peers then I don’t think it is a healthy way to live in. We should be kind and helpful to each others, shouldn’t we? I think you are still on your way to build your own philosophy, I hope you will be a nice, gentle and positive girl. 

Yes, I have never met you and I don’t even sure if you really are ***, the daughter of the mother I met in London. So what? Some kind and encouraging words to you will not harm me but help you.

Good Luck with your studies.

Merry Xmas and Happy New Year

我是什么感觉呢? 不知是受到过伤害还是父母的教育，这个妹妹正在走向世故，开始失去对社会的信心，她将由可能成为中国那个令人感到悲惨的的社会氛围的一员。我鼓励她，她竟然会把我当成笑话，傻瓜！所幸的是她父母没有笑，我不知道他父母是如何“警告”她的，但我可以理解他们的无奈。

我觉得自己算是一个很警觉的人，但是在某些方面上“保护自己”并不是很得力。尽管如此，我觉得人还是不要搞得太复杂，不然活得太累。如果天天付出额外的精力去算计太多，所获得的或者减少的那一点点损失其实并不一定值得你所失去的其它种种。

如果天天躲在自己的城堡里，守护自己的那一点点利益和秘密，失去的却是广阔的天地啊！

希望这个妹妹一直健康成长，好好享受与人交往的快乐（还有悲伤）。

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